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If you can, you may break off from the group as to only talk with each other. After several outings like this, say five or six, you may ask to do something just the two of you. After spending time together outside of the group for a while, also probably five or six times, one person will confess their love for the other.

In Western dating one would only tell someone “I love you” after being boyfriend and girlfriend for a good amount of time.

One says those words only with someone they feel they want to spend the rest of their lives with.

I’ve included my thoughts as a Westerner on Japanese dating culture for that reason.

Virgin or veteran, I feel for any Westerner or Easterner who dates or aspires to date inter-culturally this is worth a read. You might just understand the other half a little better after this.

I can best describe it as courting with initial ambiguity.

Things also move much more slowly than in the west.

I don’t just mean sex, but kissing and I think even hand holding. Attempting a kiss can make a Japanese person think you are only interested in sex or a physical relationship and not a serious or romantic relationship. For example, often a Westerner will want to kiss someone they are seeing and the Easterner doesn’t want to be kissed yet.

The Westerner will think the Easterner isn’t interested in a relationship with him/her.

Obviously how soon they are willing to have sex after becoming boyfriend and girlfriend is based on the individual.

The use of kokuhaku is also a bit of a culture shock for Westerners.

The Easterner will think the Westerner only wants to sleep with him/her and doesn’t want an actual relationship.

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