Signs he is not interested in dating you

Sometimes they end abruptly with little left to question.

Other times while you may believe you are with the man of your dreams, he is sending mixed signals and leaves you guessing about his feelings. Understanding the signs that the man you are with is no longer interested in you may be painful, but it will get you past a dead-end relationship so you can go on with your life.

If however, after a few months you have never visited his place, met any of the people closest to him and get the feeling he is keeping you in the shadows of his life then this should be a red flag. There is sex but little affection Just because he likes you enough to have sex with you doesn’t mean he is interested enough to form a relationship.

Many women make the mistake of taking his physical passion as a sign of deepening emotional intimacy – it isn’t.

“He's not only initiating a conversation, he's sustaining it,” my buddy Teddy explains. When it comes down to it, if he can’t message like an interested, engaging person, he certainly won’t date like one, either.” As a man, I can attest to this.

“It's not just a hit and run to get some ego boost from the girl's interest.” Taylor puts it well in her article about whether the guy you are messaging deserves a chance. Another telltale sign is what he remembers (or doesn’t remember) from conversation to conversation.

In the normal run of life it is usually quite obvious if a guy isn’t interested in you because they don’t ask you out on dates or pursue your company, but in the world of online dating things can be a bit more complicated.

You have probably been matched because you are highly compatible and a good online rapport may have built up because you initiate as much of the contact as he does but if this contact isn’t leading to dates, or if a first date hasn’t led to a second date it may be that he just isn’t that interested in you – here’s how to tell for sure. He won’t give you time The first and most concrete of signs that a guy isn’t that into you is that he won’t give you time – he doesn’t respond to your texts or emails quickly (within 24 hours); is evasive when it comes to meeting up and generally seems to put everything else in his life ahead of you and getting to know you better.

“Guys who don’t ask questions aren’t worth going out with right now,” Taylor says. Let’s be honest, if you’re seeing several people at the same time, you can’t keep every important detail straight from date to date.

As a result, you’re basically having to have the same introductory conversations over and over—or, you’re making sure to avoid references to family, specific friends, etc.

If he shows no sign of stopping playing the field, and actively encourages you to do the same, take his lead and go and find someone who is interested in developing a relationship exclusively with you.

I’ll be the first to admit that I have been guilty of dating several women at a time, not terribly invested in any, hoping that something sticks or someone better comes along.

He’s conveying something different: I want to see you, and I’m willing to work around your schedule if need be.

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