Text sex dating

I realized the only time I wanted more of a commitment from a guy was when he showed signs of flakiness or emotional unavailability.

It turns into a cycle as well as a self-fulfilling prophecy.

When I go for guys who can't commit, they leave, therefore validating my misguided assumption that if I let someone in, I will inevitably get hurt.

If I have sex with someone to whom I have absolutely no emotional connection, I'm kind of just phoning it in. I'd honestly just rather watch Netflix by myself than fake an orgasm with some random guy from Tinder.

It's not a coincidence that the guys with whom I've had the best sex are the ones I also like as people. When casual sex starts to turn into "friends with benefits," or anything in that category, it's great for a short period of time, but it has an expiration date.

This is called counter dependency, which I have written about before. If we go for people with whom we know it won't work out, it hurts less than putting ourselves out there with someone it actually might work out with.

There was a time when I actually used to spend hours trying to figure out what a guy's flaky behaviors meant.

Here's the truth: These people were like this before you, and they will be like this after you.

It is not your failure if you don't change this person.

But, this doesn't mean you have to stop living your lives and enter a serious, long-term, monogamous relationship. Before you can figure out what you want, stop calling it what it isn't.

We are a generation that simply refuses to admit when we have feelings for someone.

Because he has no intention of this developing into anything more than sex.

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