When is too soon to start dating after a divorce

Because of these contradictions, you have to do a reality check and assess whether a) he’s invested in you as a long-term partner, or b) whether you’re his transitional woman as he segues into single life.

Like knowing when to sleep with a guy, this is about intuition, not hard and fast rules.

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Money previously used to support one household must now stretch to support two. Divorce is a long, complicated process that requires careful preparation.

If you are contemplating divorce, now is the time to begin amassing the funds you’ll need to stay afloat. Before you jump in head first, consult with legal and financial professionals and read books about the subject.

Think about Social Security: If you’ve been married nine years, you might want to stick out the last year, so you can collect on your ex’s earnings record.

Finally, don’t just pack your bags, load up the kids, and drive away in a car that needs four new tires. The three most important words during divorce are: document, document, document.

Before you separate, buy the clothes you’ll need, perform maintenance on the car, and fix the kids’ teeth. Try to obtain copies of all financial records before your divorce begins.

Make a clear copy of all tax returns, loan applications, wills, trusts, financial statements, banking information, brokerage statements, loan documents, credit card statements, deeds to real property, car registration, insurance inventories, and insurance policies.

Think about the timing of the separation: Is your husband due a bonus or other windfall in the near future?

Don’t separate until after it arrives, so it will be community property.

During divorce, many women are concerned about financial survival—and with good reason.

Studies show that in the first year after divorce, the wife’s standard of living may drop almost 27 percent while the husband’s may increase by as much as 10 percent.

Currently, I am using online dating to meet new prospects, though I choose not to date anyone who is going through divorce.

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