Advice on dating a pilot

We can be complicated, and sometimes being friends with us takes a little more work than “normal”. In fact, some are even near poverty level, especially in the early stages of their careers.

Many people don’t understand our lifestyle (I mean, it’s not unconventional, we don’t have a special on TLC – yet, anyway) and all that comes with being friends with us. When our husbands are gone, it’s usually for days (sometimes weeks) at a time. (Just in case you don’t believe me, read this.) So if you see us using coupons, or mentioning how we’re on a budget, it’s the truth. Our lives are dictated by our husband’s schedule, as hard as that is to admit.

It can be confusing keeping up with it all, so here are a few things you should know so that you don’t think we’re crazy. This means we do everything – and I mean – while he’s gone. We can still plan around him (and usually do, to save our sanity) if we want to do things without him, but asking us if we can go with you as a couple to that concert in the spring or if we’ll be available for a weekend trip six months from now can get tricky.

So they can to get certain days off, but it’s never guaranteed. They can sometimes fly up to 8 or more cities a day, or even multiple countries a day. If you grasp this concept, we’re going to be besties real quick. (Seriously, it’s called Pilot’s Law.) And being able to rely on you when we need someone is absolutely invaluable. Sometimes things happen that are out of our control (canceled flights, weather, other weird happenings that only seem to occur to piss us off) and it can mess up any plans we have last-minute.

When they actually find out their schedule is also a factor, as this can range from 1-3 weeks before the month starts. It would take spreadsheets, charts, and a whole lot of coffee to keep up with their schedules. When you can roll with the punches like we have to, it’s a huge deal, and it doesn’t go unnoticed.

Sometimes I feel like I complain too much about being a pilot’s wife.

He’s gone a lot, I have to do everything while he’s gone, blah, blah, ad nauseam.

And since I’ve taken care of everything while he was gone, I REALLY appreciate (and tell him that) when he helps out with dinner, bath time, and bedtime. Sometimes it’s when you catch a glimpse of them in their uniform.

This in turn (feeling appreciated) makes him happy to help. Or if you’ve been a passenger while they fly and you know that they are the one behind the controls.

Or if you’ve ever heard them on the radios during their flight (if you haven’t done this yet, go to listen! It’s pretty sexy actually – your husband can thank me later. I don’t care how long they’ve been doing it, it doesn’t make it less cool.

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